When looking for marriage help many couples turn to professional counselors. Most marriage therapy is meant to be a short term endeavor for couples with problems. The therapist or counselor will get an idea of the state of the marriage by asking probing questions about the couples' roles, the good and bad aspects of their relationship etc. Once the counselor has established a certain understanding of the marriage and the problems faced they will then go on to provide some action steps to help work through the difficulties. This will usually take place over a few sessions.
When working with the couple the counselor will stress that the underlying problem in nearly all cases lies with both parties and not with one partner or the other as they probably will be believing. Once the couple can see this clearly then it is much easier for both to modify their behavior slightly to accommodate the other and a with a little consideration a successful outcome can be achieved.
To seek the aid of a marriage counselor you don't necessarily need to be married... you can even be a same sex couple. Most marriage counselors will offer their services to any couple who needs to improve or solve behavioral problems within their relationship.
There are also marriage counselors who are called upon to mediate in divorce proceeding where the couple are beyond reconciliation. Here the role of the counselor is simply to get both parties speaking to each other so that a fair result can be achieved in matters such as custody of children, sharing of property etc.
In your search for a marriage counselor you need to find out as much as you can about their background, training and qualifications. Find out what professional bodies they are affiliated with, find out if they are members of the AAMFT and any state licensing boards. You should also find out if the counselor you are considering specializes in any specific area of marriage counseling. Then of course there is the obvious questions you should be asking such as the cost and length of the sessions and how many sessions will be required.
The earlier you can admit that there are problems in your marriage the easier it will be to get a good result from your counseling sessions. Don't leave it too late before seeing a counselor, small martial problems can soon get blown out of proportion and it is best to catch them in the early stages.
For more information see my Marriage Help lens or or download a copy of the book, End Your Divorce Before It Begins.
W. Barnard - Author of Articles on Divorce and saving your marriage and the website, http://endyourdivorce.com
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